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 layout: mental-model
 name: Stop Judging
-benefit: Stop Judging
-summary: Coming Soon
+benefit: Be more understanding
+summary: It’s easier to judge than to understand.
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-#### Description
+## Description
 
+We judge automatically.
 
+We judge others for what they say, how they act, how they look. We judge ourselves for mistakes, lack of discipline, awkward moments. We even judge small things, a tone of voice, a late reply, a look.
 
-#### Practice
+Judging is fast. Understanding is slower.
 
-Find a case where you judged others, yourself, cat, anything and try to understand instead that person, understand yourself why you’re feeling what you’re feeling etc..
+When we judge, we simplify reality. When we try to understand, we expand it. Instead of labeling someone as lazy, rude, stupid, or arrogant, try asking:
+_What could be the reason behind this behavior?_. Instead of saying, “I’m undisciplined” ask: _Why did I act this way? What was I feeling?_
 
-#### Example-1
+## Practice
+
+1. Find a case where you judged someone — yourself, another person, even something small like a stranger or a pet.
+2. Instead of reinforcing the judgment, try to understand:
+      - Why might this person be acting this way?
+      - Why am I feeling this way?
+      - What assumptions am I making?
+
+### Example-1
+
+Someone cuts you off in traffic.
+- Judgment: “What an idiot.”
+- Understanding: Maybe they are late for something important. Maybe they are distracted. Maybe they made a simple mistake.
+
+### Example-2
+
+You skipped your workout.
+- Judgment: “I have no discipline.”
+- Understanding: Did I sleep badly? Am I mentally exhausted? Did I overload my schedule?
+
+### Example-3
+
+A friend doesn’t reply to your message.
+- Judgment: “They don’t care.”
+- Understanding: They might be busy. They might be overwhelmed. They might have read it and forgotten to reply.